Being seen ... Being seen by someone is so very important to anyone. When someone listens to pains, stories, it gives a feeling of comfort. You feel lesser weird, rejected, hated, alone. A sense of validation and belongingness. And the one who listens feel overburdened, loaded with pain energy, heavy, exhausted, drained, what not. The imagined thoughts of lack, self hate, self rejection is plainly transferred to the other receiving full energy. The initial light of the listener is diminished instantly to dense cloud of dark energy around them. This is what darkness wants, to feel safe- turning off all light around :)) And yet, more of this cycle is expected out of someone that "kind" being who wants to give and give, help, and unwilling (unable) to say NO- because it can break the emotional heart of the sharing "Friend" who is addicted to this cycle of wanting to be seen, and also it can break their own heart who wants to be a "good person", a helper, ki...
I have approached (only) two kind beings for psychological/spiritual help after a traumatic incident 4 years ago. First one was a young and fine therapist from Mumbai. A wonderful woman, younger than me. She spoke little in the sessions, as a rule. I was encouraged to speak from the beginning till the end of the session. She only listened and took notes :D . I recollected memories from the past, discovering where the trauma started. I expressed more. I felt valued, significant, hopeful. Laughed more at discoveries. And cried and cried. Cried and then laughed. Vented out feelings of betrayal, fears of abandonment. Felt better after each session. But, did I think about the girl on the other side who offered herself completely as a “Therapist”? I felt light and was ready to "this-time-more-consciously" create another round of mess with all my validated emotions :D. But how is she feeling? Did my emotion care about hers? More emotion means more concern or empathy, right? N...